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A Few Things I’m Learning From Being Married

1. It is OK to buy things solely based on smell.
These items could include, but are not limited to: body wash, candles, and laundry soap. This is a concept I never understood. Men are practical people. I would normally purchase these items for functionality, therefore, if a body wash doesn’t foam enough, then it’s probably not worth my time. But now I am finding this is all a myth. At the end of the day, it’s all about smelling good.
2. I’m not too young to be married.
For almost two years I’ve had the privilege (for lack of a better word) of hearing the words, “You’re married!? Wow… you’re so young!.” The truth is, I can’t imagine getting married any later in life. I am continually growing and learning, and we are learning more and more together. We didn’t really have established habits coming out of college, but are merely establishing them now with each other.
3. Dates are important.
You just can’t under estimate going out for a nice evening together. Life is just busy, and a month will go by at the blink of an eye. Those times together are super crucial and a blessing. For us, it usually means a nice dinner and maybe ice cream afterwards, and that’s always a joy for me. We get to talk, laugh, and just be together without all the distractions this world is offering us.
4. Birthdays are way more fun.
They involve sneaking around town, trying to make sure she doesn’t see the box hidden in our one bedroom apartment, and trying to get really creative with our one bank account so she can’t see how much I spent. Sometimes you have to collaborate with the in-laws which is a ton of fun. At the end of the day they are just a great time and the stories they create are priceless.
5. Holidays are different.
There is always the question of which side of the family you will visit, and on what holiday? Though I don’t mind this right now, I think it would be a lot different if we had kids. Our families want to see us. And even though we have jobs and lives here, it’s important to make our way across the country (in various directions) be with them for the holidays.
6. You start memorizing the grocery store.
Never in my life have I had to spend regular time at the grocery store. But now that we go there all the time, I’ve realized that it’s important to know where stuff is. Though we make lists and whatnot, there’s always that jar of pickles, a random seasoning like cumin, or even sloppy joe sauce that you’ll forget and need to find while getting ready to checkout. Memorizing the aisles and locations of stuff is a huge benefit, trust me.
7. Target is the best.
I think there have been weeks where we went to Target four days in a row. That place is great. They always have what we need, and we always find cheap movies that we have been wanting to buy for a while. We go for big shopping days, and when we just need a toothbrush, and every time we seem to like it.

That’s all for now.. maybe as time goes on I can share more of my learnings with you. Feel free to leave me comments… they always put a smile on my face (and my wife’s).

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A Losing Game

A film that will never be made… unless of course it’s another late night and I’m getting bored waiting for someone at the bank to connect me to someone else so I can make large purchases on my debit card. So, I guess you never know…

A Losing Game from Shay on Vimeo.

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American Idol Korean Style

You have got to be kidding me. This girl is 12?! Definitely watch this video until the end… it blew my mind.

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Still Alive

Canyon Country Fire
My only aim here is to let everyone know that we’re still alive. As many of you know already, we live in an area that was surrounded by three crazy fires. At this point I’m actually kind of tired of hearing the word fire, but then again, my house hasn’t burned down. I feel for those families who have literally lost everything in their homes, but continue to see this as an opportunity for the gospel to go forth.

We live in such a prominent area, it is sometimes hard for people to see the need for a Savior. Their homes are big, and their bellies are full, and though I am in no way judging them, I do believe it is hard for them to see the need for Christ. Tragedies, like fires, can remind us that we are never in control. It also reminds me that the Lord gives, and the Lord takes away. He is a good Sovereign God and knows all things, especially the heart of man. The next few weeks and months crucial for so many families and my hope is that God is doing something in their hearts right now, so we can see His work in the future. Keep praying…

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Charlies Brown, Among Other Things

Such A State

I was reading in my Newsweek this week about Charles Schulz, the creator of the Peanuts comic strip. You might remember me mentioning how I resemble the character Shermy from his cartoons. from his cartoons. But nevermind that for a minute. Apparently there is a new, lengthy biography about him that has his family and others talking about what he was really like. Though the family doesn’t appreciate it, the author chose to present Mr. Schulz as a relatively depressed man who poured his life into his comic strip. The basic premise is that in reality Peanuts was just a way for Schulz to show his true feelings about life, death, and everything in between. It’s almost like his life basically resembled what he would merely joke about through our favorite characters, Snoopy and Charlie Brown. But as usual, this got me thinking.

How could a man with such talent spend the majority of his life depressed? Sure, I don’t think every day was a constant drudgery for him, but I honestly believe the author saw a side of Schulz that revealed a man that had problems. From a basically fatherless home, and having his mother dying of cancer, his childhood wasn’t something he probably cherished. He was rejected as an artist through high school and college, and married late in life. Even his marriage was skewed as he engaged in an adulterous relationship with a younger woman. Newsweek reported that he even asked that younger woman to marry him while he was still married to his wife. He very well may have been a gracious and kind man, as the family argues, but the truth is his heart was aching.

But it’s not just Charles Schulz, it’s a lot of people that we see in the spotlight. Others that come to mind are actors Jim Carrey and Owen Wilson. Jim Carrey is arguably one of the most talented comedians alive and yet he has been reported as being one of the most depressed actors in Hollywood. I recently saw him promoting his movie 23, and he explained how superstitious and freaky he was about that number. He went on saying how the number 23 really is everywhere and it’s something he really believes in. Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t think I could put my faith in a number. Needless to say, we hear about famous people all the time with lives that are unfortunately bruised and broken. They spend their days creating entertainment and art for the world that we could probably never think up, but their hearts are still left in need.

It’s almost depressing just talking about how it. How can so many people, with so much talent, be so lost? Wasn’t there at least one Christian the knew Charles Schulz? Maybe there was. Maybe that person shared the love of Christ with him, but he simply rejected it. Maybe they told him what life would be like with Christ, and how a relationship with the living God would change his entire life. It’s just hard to think about things like Charlie Brown and Snoopy and all the kids they came in contact with, and then think that the creator of those memorable characters was so lost. I’m a fan of Charlie and the gang. One can always relate to the pickles Charlie Brown would get himself in. I, for one, can relate to how Charlie Brown was always so down on himself, never feeling like he could accomplish anything. How he went to Lucy the psychiatrist, and paid the nickel she charged just to get some help. Most of the time it was pretty self-explanatory what he needed to do, but it just wasn’t that clear to poor old Charlie Brown. I guess that was how Charles Schulz’s life was. He didn’t have a ton of answers, so he spent his life writing down his questions through a comic strip, even living his life vicariously through a silly, one-haired kid. I just wish that maybe he would’ve found some answer somewhere along the line and maybe good ol’ Charlie Brown would’ve been a different guy. Better yet, I would’ve hoped that Mr. Schulz would’ve experienced the love of Christ so that he could be experiencing it right now.

Click here for a short video of an upcoming special on Charles Schulz.